[Archive] Spiritual Vocation: A Coming Out

Welcome if you’re new here! Good to see you if you’re old here! unsubscribe anytime whoever you are! It’s been 5 years since my last newsletter, there’s goodies and a coming out to share, but first an update from yours truly:

  • I moved to rural New York with my beloved partner Luke. We have two chihuahuas now.

  • I took a break from consulting to spend 3 years facilitating the world’s most influential organizations with LifeLabs Learning.

  • I had the Earth drop out from under my feet in 2023, when my father passed away unexpectedly.

This initiation of loss has been the hardest experience of my life. I’ve spent the past two years largely cocooned with that great teacher, Death. And now I find myself re-emerging from the underworld, bearing gifts from the grief that I unequivocally cherish.

So, my coming out: I’m stepping into full-time spiritual vocation, and am pursuing rabbinic ordination.

Why is it that claiming spiritual vocation can feel like coming out? Maybe because, like queer coming out, a lot of you may roll your eyes and say “no duh, we already knew that about you.” Maybe it’s the shame. In a culture overwhelmed with materialism, shame says that matters of the spirit are fake at best, self-indulgent bullshit at worst. But shame is a map. Shame reveals an outpost of the enemy, identifying beliefs that do the hard work of oppression from the inside. In the urgency of unabated genocide and global authoritarianism, shame might say to drop our soul-tending practices and RUN.

Sweet darlings, you and I know that the human soul is at the frontline of the battle against rising fascism. Resisting more colorfully, more freakily, more unapologetically is strategic in this fight. I consider this one of my responsibilities as a love warrior in our times. I must be accountable to my own spiritual aliveness, so that I may have all of me with me in the struggle for justice. Not to be happy, not to be in a good mood, but for aliveness of the soul itself. Daunting, considering how damn depressing this all is, but that’s why we’re not meant to do it alone.

Spirit, soul, creativity, all that good stuff, aren’t breezes that we either catch or don’t. The professionalization of the arts and religion loooooves that myth. In this political environment, we can’t wait for those ephemeral breezes. Good news: there are countless wisdom maps that provide accessible, actionable pathways to beef up our soul muscles. Soul-tending, a term I learned from my beloved Rabbi Lynn Gottlieb, is a birthright that threatens empire (if you do it right). That’s why I’m a lifelong student of soul-tending, sitting at the feet of my own ancestral Jewish mystic clown lineages, as well body-wise forms like Cynthia Winton-Henry’s Art of Ensoulment. I may still be an organizational psychology nerd, but honey we got some soul work to do! So I’ve been thinking about what soul-support our people need and cooking up ways I can help.

The goodies: I’ve got a 1:1 spiritual accompaniment program, Seven, for those seeking the intimacy and accountability of a one on one relationship. In Seven we do big soul-tending, and make sure you get the spiritual growth you deserve from whatever endings and beginnings life is currently serving. Me and my long-time co-conspirator Elana June have two deeply queer, deeply Palestine-loving Jewish study offerings for the Hebrew year 5786. And to all my creatives - The Arts for Social Change Jam is BACK and promises to be a timely, immersive sanctuary to feed our radical artist hearts.

If you’re so moved, write back to me. Tell me how you’re doing. This newsletter started almost 10 years ago and we’ve all been through a lot. I’m grateful to be connected to you amidst it all. Thanks for being someone I want to come out to.

With love,

Annie-Rose

[Archive] Hurting Those I Love, Or How I Lost (and found) My Dog - September 2019

Hey Dear Humans,

A few weeks ago I lost and found my (partner's... technically) dog. She had tried to follow me when I left, and she ended up getting hit by a car (don't worry, she's a miracle baby and is fine). Have you ever loved something tremendously, breath-takingly, and also been responsible for it's safety and wellness? Has that thing (thing = child, pet, team, organization, etc) ever been hurt while under your care? Can you believe how much that sucks?!?!?

If you are a parent this is probably all too familiar. In those initial days of unknown, when my dear Toni Barxton (the dog) was missing, something deepened in my soul. The two truths that:

   #1   I adore this animal and that
   #2   I will cause it harm

are irreconcilable. In fact this applies to ALL of the things most precious to me. With the intimacy of love comes the responsibility of impact. And it's only a matter of time until I, oh fallible being in a complex world, will fail at keeping everything I love 100% safe. Whether it's a non-profit that I'm directing or a friendship that I'm building, or perhaps most unequivocally - my own life.

So how does one go on? How does a heart stay open and tender and willing? There are many pathways, but I believe all of them involve getting a little more comfortable with the human condition. The tension of love and impact isn't an aberration that holy and healed heroes manage to avoid. It is the very nature of the thing itself. We are all out here, doing our best, achingly deserving of love and embedded with the capacity to give love. And we will all slip up.

At the end Toni - limping, skinny and ragged - came back to us. The love that drove her after my departing car four day's earlier is the same love that brought her home. Ready to lap up all the love that I was more than ready to give her.Here's to 100% Liberation Throughout Space and Time,

Annie-Rose
 

[Archive] Race Reflections While Visiting Where The Other Boat Landed - January 2019

Hi hi,

I am writing to you from a café in Buenos Aires, Argentina. 

I am here meeting family that traces back to the same little shtetl (village) of Zembin where our people lived for several centuries. My family is ashkenazi Jewish on both sides, and when my dad's mother's side of the family escaped Belarus around the turn of the last century, most of them came to New York City, some went to South Africa and some went to Argentina. We've been in our respective diasporas for over a hundred years now. We speak different languages, and being Jewish means different things to us. This encounter with my family's Jewishness in an Argentine context is makes me want to talk to you about White Supremacy, so let's talk!  Specifically, about the tension of trying to not employ white supremacy thinking to dismantle white supremacy. 

On one hand - as a white jew, I must understand my white skin privilege and identify as white so that the aspects of me that have assimilated into white culture are not taken as neutral. I cannot explain my life and my experiences without claiming both my experience as a Jew AND as a white person in the United States. And if I do not claim my whiteness then I cannot authentically speak to and organize other white people against racism.

On the OTHER hand - the important anti-racist work of deconstructing the entire notion of whiteness, a categorical construct unmapped to any genetic racial truth. Part of de-centering whiteness and creating authentic multi-racial relationships involves white people moving past "white neutrality" and investigating their own cultural heritages. The cultural poverty of whiteness and its placelessness generates the hunger to consume and abuse other cultures. White supremacy created the construct of whiteness, so to dismantle white supremacy we must deconstruct whiteness. 

So, how to do both? and how does that look here in Argentina, where I have family in a different racial context, drawing light to how provisional the coincidence of my birth is in the racial context of the United States?

I am shpieling on about this not just to explore my own specific racial situation, which I'm also doing, btw. I think that this creative tension, of identifying with a group and dismantling the constructs of separateness AT THE SAME TIME, is divine.

From a spiritual perspective I believe that the only things worth adoring involve at least some level of paradox. Paradox and seemingly irreconcilable truths generate a space of mystery and surrender, where our logical brains have to let go and our hearts and sheer yearning take up the slack. There is Spirit living in the messiness of life. This is why if you're looking for a spiritual journey, I highly recommend putting your whole heart in social justice, it will wooooorrrrrk you and humble you and gratify your soul. The tension is where we begin, not where we turn away.

How many other irreconcilable truths do you wish to hold together?

  • That you can love someone and need to have a boundary with them?

  • That you are proud and confident AF and deeply insecure?

  • That you need to leave but you're not ready to go?

I come bearing no solutions. You're welcome. May 2019 be a year generous enough to hold all of your paradoxes, all of your deepest hearts' longings for justice, all your identities and all the joy you didn't even know you were allowed to have.

For 100% Liberation Throughout Space and Time,

Annie-Rose